Sometimes, the hardest part of helping someone is knowing what to do when you see signs of danger, especially when it involves violence, mental health struggles, or firearms. You might notice changes in their behaviour, hear worrying comments, or sense that something isn’t right.

This blog will guide you through simple, practical steps to support someone at risk, whether they are facing domestic violence, emotional distress, or suicidal thoughts, and show how Canada’s Red Flag laws can help keep them safe.

Start with Compassion, Not Judgment

When someone is in danger or showing signs of distress, they might already feel ashamed, scared, or trapped. The first thing they need is someone who listens, not someone who judges.

Start by creating a safe space for them to talk. You can say things like:

• “I have noticed you seem really stressed lately. Are you okay?”
• “You don’t have to go through this alone. I’m here for you.”
• “You don’t deserve to feel unsafe in your own home.”

Sometimes, people won’t open up right away. That’s okay. Let them know you will be there when they’re ready. Small, calm conversations can make a big difference over time.

Recognize the Warning Signs

Supporting someone starts with noticing red flags. Warning signs can look different for everyone, but common ones include:

• Talking about feeling hopeless or having “nothing to live for.”
• Being unusually withdrawn or anxious.
• Showing fear around a partner or family member.
• Mentioning or showing access to firearms.
• Increased anger, controlling behaviour, or violence.
• Talking about wanting to hurt themselves or someone else.

If you see a combination of these signs, especially where firearms are involved,  take them seriously.

Have the Conversation Safely

If you believe someone is at risk, it’s okay to start a conversation, but do it safely. Choose a time and place where the person feels comfortable and not rushed. Keep your tone calm and caring.

Avoid accusing statements like “You need to leave him” or “You’re being dramatic.” Instead, focus on concern and support. For example:

• “I’m worried about your safety. Have you thought about talking to someone?”
• “Do you feel safe at home right now?”
• “I can help you find support if you want.”
  

If you ever feel that a situation could turn violent or you see weapons, don’t confront the person directly. Leave the area and contact authorities or a crisis line for help.

Know When and How to Act

In some cases, showing support also means taking action to prevent harm. If you believe someone could hurt themselves or others, and firearms are involved, you can apply for a Red Flag Order.

Under Canada’s Red Flag laws, anyone, a friend, family member, neighbour, or professional, can ask a court to temporarily remove or restrict access to firearms when there’s a serious safety risk. This process is confidential, and judges handle these cases urgently. The goal isn’t punishment,  it’s prevention and protection.

You can also reach out to:

• Local police, if you believe there’s an immediate danger.
• Victim services or crisis lines, for guidance and emotional support.
• Community or mental health organizations, to connect the person with professional help.

Sometimes, acting quickly can save a life.

Help Them Create a Safety Plan

If the person is in a dangerous relationship or environment, help them think through a safety plan.

This could include:

• Keeping important documents (ID, bank cards, medical info) in a safe place.
• Having a “go bag” ready in case they need to leave quickly.
• Identifying safe places to go, a friend’s house, shelter, or community centre.
• Creating a code word with a trusted person that signals they need help.
• Avoiding arguments when the abuser has been drinking or is angry.

If firearms are in the home, safety planning is even more critical. Never try to take the weapons yourself. Contact authorities for help.

Offer Practical Support

Emotional support is important, but practical help often makes the biggest difference. You can:

• Offer a ride to counseling or court appointments.
• Help with finding housing, childcare, or financial support.
• Research local organizations together.
• Just checking in regularly, a text, a call, or dropping by for coffee can mean a lot.

Even small acts can help someone feel less alone and more capable of taking steps toward safety.

Take Care of Yourself Too

Supporting someone at risk can be emotionally draining. You might feel scared, frustrated, or helpless at times. You can’t fix everything on your own, and it’s okay to ask for help. Reach out to support lines or counselling services for yourself, too. Taking care of your mental health helps you stay strong for the person you’re supporting.

Many tragedies happen because people see the warning signs but don’t know how to respond. Your voice, your action, and your care can interrupt that pattern. Every call, every conversation, every moment of kindness counts. You don’t need to be an expert or have all the answers, you just need to care enough to act.

If you believe someone is in danger, learn more about how to apply for a Red Flag Order or find support at womenalert.ca/take-action